by Noah Zazanis
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There is a lot to unpack here, and I do not want to get into it. In the place of my own personal experiences, I will give you a quote from the article
”For me, claiming that my childhood experiences of misogyny do not influence my current relationship to gendered power relations is as invalidating as saying that me having had a girlhood means I’ll never be a man. To believe that would render my past inexplicable, and leave me with no context for understanding the man I am now, and the ways in which I differ from the cis men I organize with, fuck, and love—as well as the ones who have harmed me.”